Osho on Relationships

Osho – The miserable person can pretend to be a friend but in fact he cannot be. Friendliness is a luxury. It is overflowing energy — so much energy that you cannot contain it, you have to share it. That sharing becomes friendliness. And when you share because of your abundance there is no idea [...]

Question – Beloved Osho, Why it is so difficult for Sannyasins to have deep relationships with Non-Sannyasins? Osho – It is natural. To be a sannyasin means you are deprogrammed. To relate with non-sannyasins is bound to be difficult because they are programmed people. Their programmed minds and your deprogrammed minds cannot have anything in [...]

[Another sannyasin says that she tends to avoid the very people with whom she would like arelationship. She wonders if leaving Poona is not an attempt to avoid Osho. She feels confusedand depressed about the whole thing .... ] Osho – It is a very common phenomenon: whenever you want to go into a relationship [...]

[At a previous darshan (see ’The Passion For The Impossible’, September 1 st), Osho had advised a couple to work on their relationship. The woman was jealous about the man being with other women. Now they report back to Osho. The woman says that before her energy was more with her man, now it is [...]

[A sannyasin says: I wrote you a letter about having recently finished a relationship with somebody, and since then I’ve been feeling very negative towards him. I don’t understand why I feel so antagonistic to someone I once cared about. My understanding is that perhaps I didn’t express enough negativity during the relationship, but I [...]

[Osho asks a sannyasin about her relationship and she replies: Well, I feel good, and it’s the nicest thing that has happened to me for a very long time. But what’s happening is that he wants me to just be a friend – and I want more than that. He says that he cares about [...]

[The first sannyasin Osho addressed had sent him a letter earlier saying that she was in a deeploving relationship with her husband, but at the same time she felt attracted to someone else.] Osho – Two things to remember. The first: love grows only in deep intimacy and trust. If you change persons, from A [...]